He doesn’t have time to finish his homework at school, but at home he has the distraction of his computer and his phone. As his school work gets more demanding, I’m finding that evenings are becoming much more challenging because the medication has worn off and it’s harder for him to focus. “My son is 15 and takes medication to help manage his ADHD symptoms. We end up not even trying to accomplish the homework until bedtime, which creates a whole new issue.” ADHD Afternoons: Maintaining Drive as the Medication Wears Off
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Homework time is more like wartime - full of arguing, meltdowns, and procrastination. It’s all our child can do to hold it together during the school day so, after school, he is done. “The most difficult time of the day at our house is homework time. If anything goes wrong, it takes a long time for him to calm down, and he remains overly sensitive to anything negative for the rest of the evening.” When his meds wear off, he’s tired or ‘hangry,’ these all seem to be triggers. This can happen at any time during his day, but he has the toughest time with flexibility as it gets later. “If our 11-year-old son has any surprises, even good ones, he gets completely thrown and quickly becomes very, very angry. I just have him eat a snack wherever we are, and do as much homework as possible wherever we are going.” The only solution I have found is to try to fit what he does anyway around any extra thing we’re doing. If his routine is interrupted, he becomes short tempered and suffers outbursts, easily hurt feelings, and a lack of energy to finish his usual tasks once we get home. My son has to take the time to refocus, so he can get his homework done, eat dinner, and fall into his nightly routine.
“Our worst time is usually right after school. If I suggest that he needs to correct a question, he gets upset and frustrated, saying things like: ‘Don’t tell me - I got them all wrong.’ ‘I’m so stupid.’ ‘I can’t do this.’ Or he will just bury his head in the sofa cushions.” When it’s time for me to check his homework, my son walks away and begins doing something else so that I have to get him back on track to correct any mistakes. Once he gets started, there are a million questions - some related to the assignment and many not related at all. “I have to constantly remind my son to take the toys off the table and start his homework. It seems to be a good option for my early bird youngest, at least.” ADHD Afternoons: Coping with Homework and Schedule Frustrations (or Not) We’re starting to leave some homework to be completed in the morning, waking up extra early.
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“The problem is all the tasks that need to be completed during that time after school but before dinner, combined with attention deficit disorder ( ADHD or ADD), plus being tired after a day at school. Sometimes, it takes a long time to find everything he needs to get started (checking the website, writing down the assignment), sometimes he goes beyond the assignment (reading beyond the assigned pages because it’s interesting), sometimes he finds something else that distracts him (a magazine or a book-whatever is lying around), sometimes he takes a long trip to the bathroom, sometimes he’s just not peppy and the work becomes a slow, plodding process.” “Even when we set a goal like ‘Social studies done in 45 minutes,’ homework assignments can take two or three times longer than any reasonable estimate. Typically, his homework is still not done.” By the time he goes to bed, he is angry, hurt, and overwhelmed. As dinnertime approaches, he becomes more upset about the work not having been completed. He paces, stands, shifts, and becomes more agitated by the second.
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He argues that he doesn’t know how to do his assignments, but when you sit to help him he fights about every little detail.
“My son comes home overwhelmed from the day and argumentative about anything and everything. The only thing that works is to let her go in her room and ride out the tantrum until it’s over - then she’s able to come back out and be fine again.” Any tiny trigger and she will have a full meltdown with yelling, hitting, and kicking. She unleashes in the car on the way home.
If she is able to make it through without a meltdown, her self-control has reached its absolute limit by the time I pick her up. “My 5 year old struggles to get through school and after-school care without any major blowups. ADHD Afternoons: Losing Calm and Focus After School
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